3 Ways to Live a “Dramatic” Life

Dramatic – Daily writing prompt

Monday mornings at work, we have a meeting usually about an hour long. The first half of the meeting we usually tell fun stories about our weekend on a volunteer basis. It’s a fun little exercise to get the week started as some stories can be pretty entertaining.

Over the past year, I’ve developed a bit of a reputation of having funny or at least mildly interesting stories. It’s now at the point where people occasionally request a story from me because they know I’ll have something interesting to say!

Honestly, I don’t believe my life is anymore interesting than the next person. However, I can tell you for a fact that I do go into the weekend with a mindset of having a fun experience or finding an interesting story to share with the group on Monday.

Here are some tips I have to living a more exciting life:

1. Seek out new experiences

Sometimes my girlfriend and I will look on Groupon or any other website for discounted deals on local activities. This is how we found ourselves taking archery classes, or how I went Flyboarding in Miami. One time, we just rented bikes to go cruising near the ocean at Huntington Beach for an afternoon. Another time we took yoga classes for two months for $30 each. We try to find new things to do at least once or twice a month. With sites like groupon, there’s usually a large number of activities to choose from.

2. Be proactive with your weekends

Instead of going into the weekend thinking, “I’m just going to relax. I’m too tired to do anything,” look to the weekend as a time to have fun and something to look forward to. Don’t be reactive and wait for something to happen to you. Before you know it, you’ll be sitting on your couch watching Netflix again, binge watching some series for 20 hours straight and wonder where the weekend went. If you want your life experience to consist of hours of Netflix, then go for it. But I would hardly consider that a great experience to look back on.

3. Say “Yes” more often

I found some of the most fun things I’ve done were usually things I didn’t want to do at first. But once I got out of my own mental comfort zone, the experience turned out to be more fun. For example, I was never big on outdoor activities like hiking. Now, however, my girlfriend and I have been on several trails because she’s always push for going. Overall, it’s a fun activity and great exercise as well. The views can be worth it alone, and being away from technology is a great feeling.

Any other tips for living a more fun and interesting life? Please let me know in the comments!

Becoming someone you “Admire”

Admire – Daily writing prompt

We all have someone we admire, whether it’s a parent, a teacher, professionals, successful business people, a friend, or even a sibling. There’s something about who they are and what they’ve accomplished that we really appreciate.

For some people, they strive to be someone that others can admire for their own achievements. It’s very rewarding to hear when someone says you’ve inspired them and your example changed their lives.

So how do you become someone that others admire? I think there are many ways:

-Do something that inspires you. Commit and do it fully. Despite what people may say and how they might discourage you, it’s more fulfilling do to it than to regret not having even tried.

-Do what you love, which will make it easier to do. As Gary Vaynercuk says, he hardly ever gets burned out because he’s constantly energized by following his passion.

-Love what you do. This stems from gratitude and seeing the bright side of things. Your optimism and appreciative mindset is what will make you happy in whatever you do.

-Overcome your challenges. Don’t wish things were easier, wish that you were better and then constantly work to improve yourself daily. When you reach the point where others give up, keep pushing until you succeed. Your story will inspire others that it CAN be done despite your challenges.

-Be consistent and persistent. When the rock and the stream meet, the stream wins every time. Case in point: the Grand Canyon.

-Focus. Most people have a deficit of attention. You’ll be surprised how far ahead of the pack you’ll be if you can F.O.C.U.S. (Follow One Course Until Successful).

Along your path to doing what inspires you, committing to something, following your passion, being happy and loving what you do,overcoming your personal obstacles, and focusing, you’ll no doubt inspire others along the way 🙂

Any other ways to become someone you’d admire? Leave a comment below!

How to be “Unstoppable”

Unstoppable – Daily writing prompt

Sometimes we go through life and feel like nothing is in our control. Why does it seem like everything we want to do is so hard?

At times, I wish I were unstoppable like Juggernaut from X-Men. Metaphorically, I could plow through anything in my path and be an incredible force.

Quick tangent: “What happens when an unstoppable force meets an immovable object?” Apparently this is called the irresistible force paradox. Read the wiki page if you wanna make your brain hurt, haha.

Back to the main subject: how do we make ourselves unstoppable so we can accomplish the things we want?

One answer I think of comes from another favorite book of mine Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable, by Tim Grover.

He discusses the concept of a “cleaner,” which is the highest caliber of performer. Michael Jordan, for example, was a cleaner.

A cleaner doesn’t study the competition, he/she works so hard that the competition studies THEM.

Here are some other key ideas about becoming unstoppable from the book:

-constantly striving to become better than who you were yesterday

-training physical strength as well as mental

-being comfortable with being outside your comfort zone

-knowing who you truly are and not making excuses

-we’re all born bad and taught to be good. Harnessing our “dark side” is what helps you get into the zone of complete focus

-working hard, making decisions, and obsessed with the results

-being feared over being liked

-trusting very few people, and those you do trust better not let you down

-never being complacent, always focusing on achieving the next goal.

Overall, it’s a phenomenal read, highly recommend it. I get pumped up from hearing about the concept of a cleaner.

Comment if you have any other tips to become unstoppable!

What to do in a “Crisis”

Crisis – daily writing prompt

So imagine everything in your world is falling apart (or maybe for some of us, this is a sad reality 😢).

Let’s say a crisis could be losing your job, an unexpected breakup, or a mega-earthquake like in the movie San Andreas with Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson (I loved that movie btw. Ratings weren’t amazing but who cares, the Rock is a #boss)

I asked my coworker for some nuggets of wisdom in these scenarios, and here’s what he would advise:

-Try not to handle everything at once, take it one step at a time.

-Handle the issues in a queue, you’ll stress out if you try to do it all at once.

-Think objectively, focus on the goal rather than the means. Easier said than done since these problems are subjective, but stepping back can help provide some clarity.

-Focus on the things that make you happy. Be around friends and reconnect with people.

-Redirect your energy and use your time constructively. Find new hobbies, stay active, keep your mind occupied. In a crisis, the worst place to be is alone with your thoughts.

Any other good pieces of advice for people dealing with a crisis? Let us know in the comments! 🙂

Are wealth and happiness “Elusive”?

Elusive – Daily writing prompt

Are things like happiness and wealth elusive?

“Nothing good ever happens to me!”

or

“I’ll never be rich”

These are just some of the internal scripts that unhappy and broke people use to describe their lives. I believe that the key to changing our circumstances relies heavily on changing those internal scripts.

In one of my favorite books, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker talks about his “hokey” affirmations that helped him reprogram how he thought about wealth and money. Definitely recommend.

-They say the difference between a good day and a bad day depends on your attitude. The stimulus/event is the same, but your reaction to it is what makes the difference.

-Happiness works the same way. Your day isn’t good or bad. It just is. But happiness is definitely a choice that lies in between the event and how you choose to feel about it. Knowing this will give you the greatest power over your mind.

-They say a true master/warrior is one who can control his or her own mind and emotions.

-One of my favorite quotes on gratitude:

“What makes you think you deserve more when you don’t even appreciate what you have?”

-When in doubt, an attitude of gratitude will help you feel happier.

In terms of wealth, the same principles apply.

-As Tony Robbins says, you can’t become wealthy. You start wealthy and then work to become financially free.

Abundance mentality vs scarcity mentality is HUGE. This principle applies in everything we do and how we see things.

-People who are broke are largely so because they have scarcity mentality. They hoard, save, don’t give and help others, and are constantly in a mindset of lack and not having enough. The don’t share and are afraid of giving because they feel like they lose. They don’t take risks and they sacrifice quality of life for cheap and budget.

-People who are wealthy are largely so because of their abundance mentality. It requires a lot of optimism and vision to create something of huge value and become rich. They give constantly because they’re grateful and know there’s plenty to go around. They take chances because they see the upsides. They share thoughts and ideas because they know better ones come from open information and collaboration. They opt for quality over lower price.

-If you don’t start wealthy in your mind, you have no chance of becoming rich. You have to act and be what you want.

“You don’t get what you want, you get what you are.”

Start wealthy and happy, don’t become it. It’s not elusive unless you think it is.

Always watching the “Clock”

Clock – Daily writing prompt

I remember a story I heard on Tony Robbin’s audio program Time of Your Life (highly recommended).

He recalls when he went to Fiji to buy some land as his own personal getaway. It’s a beautiful place so why not? He remembers being in the water relaxing, when he was startled because he had lost track of time. Being the busy man he is and having several other appointments throughout the day he didn’t want to be late for, he jumped out of the water and ran towards a nearby Fijian man.

He exclaimed, “Sir, do you know what time it is?”

The Fijian man looked at him strangely.

Tony repeated, “Time! Do you know what time it is?”

The man looked up at the sky, then back at Tony and said, “Daytime.”

Isn’t it strange how we’re so worried about being on schedule, on time, getting things done, being so used to our routine, that we cannot stop, slow down, and smell the metaphorical roses?

What is time really? Why is it that time can seem so short, while also feeling so long?

Why is it that when we’re having fun, time seems to just fly by. When we’re in the waiting room of a hospital, time seems to slow down almost to a halt.

Tony Robbins says time is just an emotion.

How we feel affects how time feels to us. So maybe instead of checking the clock all the time, we just enjoy the time we have right in this moment.

Taking things “slowly”

Slowly – Daily writing prompt

Mostly a reminder to myself, but it’s always a good reminder to take things slowly.

We live in such a fast world, constantly inundated by advertisements, social media notifications, text messages, etc. It’s no wonder why we think our kids are becoming more ADD in today’s world.

Our minds never take a rest. Constantly juggling one task or thought with several others. Like an Internet browser with too many windows open, it’s hard to focus on anything when we’re constantly overwhelmed.

And it’s with this environment that we try to go faster and faster, try to get more stuff done, “multitask,” and find all these productivity hacks.

However, we all know that this isn’t healthy nor sustainable.

In one of my favorite books of all time The 4-Hour Workweek, Tim Ferriss showcases this amazing poem which I thought would be very appropriate for the my thoughts on this subject:

Slow Dance, by David L. Weatherford
Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round,
or listened to rain slapping the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight,
or gazed at the sun fading into the night?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
Do you run through each day on the fly,
when you ask “How are you?”, do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed,
with the next hundred chores running through your head?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
Ever told your child, we’ll do it tomorrow,
and in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, let a friendship die,
’cause you never had time to call and say hi?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere,
you miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
it’s like an unopened gift thrown away.
Life isn’t a race, so take it slower,
hear the music before your song is over.

Live “carefree”

Carefree – Daily writing prompt

Adj. free from anxiety or responsibility

So this past weekend, my family and I went to Miami and had a bunch of fun. We explored South Beach, ate a bunch of food, and went flyboarding!

I learned a funny thing while flyboarding with my sister and mom. Even though both my sister and I are “adults” (25 and 27), our mom still worries about us like we are 5 and 7.

You would think that as we get older and can prove to her we can survive on our own, she would worry less.

Nope. In fact, it almost seems like she worries more, haha.

If my sister was flyboarding and she would fall into the water from about 3 ft in the air, my mom would exclaim, “is your sister alright?”

“Yes mom, if she wasn’t, she would be screaming in pain or something.”

“Baby! (referring to my older sister) Are you alright?!”

“Yes mom, she’s alright…” (lol).

Although I’m not a parent yet, I imagine that you’ll always worry about your kids to some extent. But I thought that all that worrying isn’t healthy and probably causes a lot of unnecessary stress.

I have not read the book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, but Dale Carnegie is phenomenal and I’ve gotten many recommendations to read it, so it’s on my to-read list. (This is probably one of the few books I’ll recommend here that I haven’t read myself, as I’ll almost always recommend books I’ve finished.)

I hope I won’t worry too much when I have kids. I know I will to some extent, but feel like there’s a line where it can get a bit excessive. Sometimes you just gotta let them fly and grow on their own. That’s the best way to make sure they’ll be okay and you’ll live carefree 🙂