When you’re an introvert surrounded by extroverts

Why we shouldn’t force others to communicate like us.

This talk was spurred by a discussion I was in where one lady felt uncomfortable because someone an introverted person wouldn’t communicate like the other extroverts.

It’s my belief that when you feel uncomfortable with someone else’s personality, its 100% your responsibility/fault, not theirs.

We shouldn’t try and force people to adapt to our communication style.

Instead, we should accept people for who they are and be more understanding that not everyone is like us.

Just my 2 cents.

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How to spend more money guilt-free

The key to spending more is to know what you value and what brings you happiness.

For many of us, we feel like we’re not good with our money.

  • We spend more than we think we should
  • We buy things that don’t make us happy long-term
  • We get buyers remorse often
  • We find we have less money at the end of the month
  • We’re constantly waiting for payday so we can feel good again

The key to being able to spend more is to:

  1. Know what you value, what brings you true joy, and spend more on that
  2. Cut mercilessly on things we don’t value or doesn’t bring us lasting happiness

From there, you can develop your own “conscious spending plan” as outlined in the book I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi.

Book notes: The Warrior Diet by Ori Hofmekler

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The Warrior Diet: Switch on Your Biological Powerhouse for High Energy, Explosive Strength, and a Leaner, Harder Body by Ori Hofmekler

Synopsis:

In The Warrior Diet, Ori Hofmekler looks not forward but backward for a solution – to the primal habits of early cultures such as nomads and hunter-gatherers, the Greeks, and the Romans. Based on survival science, this book proposes not ordinary dietary changes but rather a radical yet surprisingly simple lifestyle overhaul.

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Book notes: Unfu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop

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Unfu*k Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life by Gary John Bishop

Synopsis:

Are you tired of feeling f*cked up? If you are, Gary John Bishop has the answer. In this straightforward handbook, he gives you the tools and advice you need to demolish the slag weighing you down and become the truly unf*cked version of yourself. “Wake up to the miracle you are,” he directs. “Here’s what you’ve forgotten: You’re a f*cking miracle of being.” It isn’t other people that are standing in your way; it isn’t even your circumstances that are blocking your ability to thrive. It’s yourself and the negative self-talk you keep telling yourself.

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Book notes: The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

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The Art of Seduction: An Indispensable Primer on the Ultimate Form of Power by Robert Greene

Synopsis:

When raised to the level of art, seduction, an indirect and subtle form of power, has toppled empires, won elections, and enslaved great minds. The Art of Seduction synthesizes the legacies of civilization’s greatest seducers – from Cleopatra to JFK – with the philosophies of important intellectuals on the subject, including everyone from Freud to Kierkegaard and Ovid to Casanova, and the classic literature of seduction. Robert Greene identifies the rules of a timeless, amoral game and explores how to cast a spell, break down resistance, and, ultimately, compel a target to surrender. The Art of Seduction is an indispensable primer on the essence of one of history’s greatest weapons and the ultimate form of power.

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Book notes: Showboat by Roland Lazenby

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Showboat: The Life of Kobe Bryan by Roland Lazenby

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Synopsis:

“Seventeen-time all-star; scorer of 81 points in a game; MVP; and a shooting guard second only to Jordan in league history: Kobe Bryant is one of basketball’s absolute greatest players, a fascinating and complicated character who knew when he was a mere boy that he would be better than Jordan on the court.

The debate about whether he achieved that is a furious one – but Kobe has surpassed Jordan on the all-time scoring list and has only one less championship than Jordan (five to Jordan’s six).

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Book notes: Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss

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Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It by Chris Voss

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Synopsis:

“A former international hostage negotiator for the FBI offers a new field-tested approach to high-stakes negotiations – whether in the boardroom or at home.

Never Split the Difference takes you inside the world of high-stakes negotiations and into Voss’ head, revealing the skills that helped him and his colleagues succeed where it mattered most: in saving lives. In this practical guide, he shares the nine effective principles – counterintuitive tactics and strategies – you, too, can use to become more persuasive in both your professional and personal lives.

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To Improve Your Life, Improve Your Friends

One of the most effective ways to improve the results you’re getting. Surround yourself with those who elevate you.

 

“You are the average of your 5 closest friends”

This “Thought of the Day” centers around the idea of how the easiest way to predict our future is to look at who we choose to surround ourselves with.

Constantly find groups that will push you to become your better self.

Take on leadership positions to force yourself to take on new challenges.

Choose growth over comfort.

Special thanks to the Campuswide Honors Program (CHP) at UCI for elevating my mindset and being a part of my personal journey to where I am today 🙏🏼