When you’re an introvert surrounded by extroverts

Why we shouldn’t force others to communicate like us.

This talk was spurred by a discussion I was in where one lady felt uncomfortable because someone an introverted person wouldn’t communicate like the other extroverts.

It’s my belief that when you feel uncomfortable with someone else’s personality, its 100% your responsibility/fault, not theirs.

We shouldn’t try and force people to adapt to our communication style.

Instead, we should accept people for who they are and be more understanding that not everyone is like us.

Just my 2 cents.

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How to spend more money guilt-free

The key to spending more is to know what you value and what brings you happiness.

For many of us, we feel like we’re not good with our money.

  • We spend more than we think we should
  • We buy things that don’t make us happy long-term
  • We get buyers remorse often
  • We find we have less money at the end of the month
  • We’re constantly waiting for payday so we can feel good again

The key to being able to spend more is to:

  1. Know what you value, what brings you true joy, and spend more on that
  2. Cut mercilessly on things we don’t value or doesn’t bring us lasting happiness

From there, you can develop your own “conscious spending plan” as outlined in the book I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi.

To Improve Your Life, Improve Your Friends

One of the most effective ways to improve the results you’re getting. Surround yourself with those who elevate you.

 

“You are the average of your 5 closest friends”

This “Thought of the Day” centers around the idea of how the easiest way to predict our future is to look at who we choose to surround ourselves with.

Constantly find groups that will push you to become your better self.

Take on leadership positions to force yourself to take on new challenges.

Choose growth over comfort.

Special thanks to the Campuswide Honors Program (CHP) at UCI for elevating my mindset and being a part of my personal journey to where I am today 🙏🏼

The most expensive thing you can own

One of my greatest fears and why I keep learning.

“If you’re green, you’re growing. If you’re ripe, you’re rotting.” – Tony Robbins

Key Topics:

  • One of my greatest fears 😱
  • Why I enjoy reading so much 📚
  • Why knowledge is like a spider’s web
  • Older people compared to younger people 👶🏻👴🏼
  • The most expensive/costly thing you can own 💸

Continue reading “The most expensive thing you can own”

How do we find our purpose?

The other day, I was in a discussion group talking about willpower and how someone would develop or increase it.

One of the guys in our group said:

“All you have to do is just find your purpose and do it. Then you’ll get more willpower.”

Me: “But how do you just ‘find your pupose?'”

I didn’t like that answer because it sounded easier said than done. I felt like saying that wouldn’t help anyone who wanted to find their purpose but didn’t know how.

Key idea: You find your purpose by trying different things and finding the intersection of what you’re good at and what you enjoy doing

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree? 

How to Eat Less Junk Food

How I trained myself to eat less junk food.

Thought of the Day 

Key idea: training yourself to associate how you FEEL 10-15 minutes after you eat the food instead of associating the food with those feelings of instant gratification when you first take a bite.

Now, I’m not saying I don’t eat junk food nor do I hate junk food. But my cravings and desire to eat them often has decreased significantly.

Are you interested in trying this? Let me know your thoughts 

What Makes Us So Unhappy?

Thought for the day 

Key idea: The easiest way to make ourselves unhappy is to compare ourselves with other people. Therefore, to increase happiness, we have to stop this.

Easier said than done, given how social media encourages us to show our “best sides” and the “highlight reel” of our lives.

I reality, many times we’re just trying to impress people we don’t even like. And we can’t help but be envious of those around us who seem happy and successful.

But more often than not, those who seem to have perfect lives on the outside might be struggling with the same insecurities as us.

Some of my favorite books on this topic:

Thoughts? Do you agree? Disagree? What else makes us unhappy?

People Who Get Offended Easily

“Those who get offended easily should be offended more often”

Counter-cultural idea: Nobody can offend you, it’s your choice to be offended. When we get offended easily, it’s a sign that we’re either taking something personally or taking things too seriously.

I have to remind myself that when someone says something “offensive” to me or about me, it reveals more about them and their faults rather than myself.

A perfect example: check out the comments section on my original Facebook post. Someone who saw my video got offended by what I was saying and took it down a different rabbit hole.

He interpreted it as being complacent when there is an injustice happening (such as bigotry, racism, etc). This was definitely NOT the spirit or intention of the video.

In my observation, he was noticeably annoyed by the idea and was probably looking to start a fight and demonstrate his intellectual prowess and moral high ground. He also tagged his friend for backup, which seemed to be intended to try and “win” this argument.

While it would have been easy for me to take it personally and attack back, I rewatched my video and took my own advice. I understood where he was coming from, and even though he diverged from the spirit of the idea, I knew this wasn’t a battle I needed to try and “win”.

Instead, I chose to end the discussion with acceptanceempathy, and gratitude for him and his beliefs.

To be completely honest, when I first started reading the thread and the attacks, my heart rate increased as an involuntary “fight or flight” reaction took place in my mind/body. However, I took a second to listen, understand, and calmly formulate my best response.

And in retrospect, I thought it was ironic and hilarious that someone got offended by my video about not getting offended and how you control your own emotional response to things.

We should learn from those who can laugh at themselves easily and not take things personally. These people are almost always much happier.

Even for me, this is a work in progress. And this was such a beautifully-timed challenge for me to face and apply my own advice.

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree?

Originally posted on 7/26/18 on Facebook here.