Book notes: Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang

Rejection Proof book summary by Marlo Yonocruz

Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang


Synopsis: “Jia Jiang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. Despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. Jia was crushed and spiraled into a period of deep self-doubt. But he realized that his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his “100 days of rejection” experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis.

Jia learned that even the most preposterous wish may be granted if you ask in the right way, and here he shares the secret of successful asking, how to pick targets, and how to tell when an initial no can be converted into something positive. But more important, he learned techniques for steeling himself against rejection and ways to develop his own confidence – a plan that can’t be derailed by a single setback.

Filled with great stories and valuable insight, Rejection Proof is a fun and thoughtful examination of how to overcome fear and dare to live more boldly.” -Amazon

Opening thoughts:

If I’m not mistaken, I heard this guy’s story from his when someone posted his TED talk on my newsfeed. His presentation was fantastic, and I never knew he actually published a book about his story. I had actually seen the book cover pop up on my recommended reads, but never read the synopsis until recently.

My mom recently finished reading this book and absolutely loved it, so I’m sure I would enjoy it as a part of this month’s reading list. I always like to have a more narrative-type book grouped with a more business book, and maybe a more general personal development-type book.

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Why fitness bootcamp is the worst thing ever

Several months back, a coworker of mine was telling me about this fitness bootcamp she was doing atΒ OC Fit. It sounded pretty intense, but she kept going so I assumed she liked it.

Last week, we found a Groupon for 21 days of unlimited classes for $17. That’s a pretty amazing deal considering the price of the monthly membership. Sure, why not. We decided to buy it.

When we got there, the first thing I noticed was the loud, high energy, clubbing-type music. Lots of sweaty people around the gym were lifting weights, then shuffling between workouts each time the 50-second buzzer went off.

I found where the Irvine masochists hang out.

 

It felt like going clubbing, but without the dancing or fun. It was similar to when we went to Soul Cycle a couple weeks back.

To be honest, it didn’t look that bad. They weren’t going a hundred miles an hour, so I figured I could keep up.

I was wrong.

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“Nightmare” & Fear

NightmareΒ – Daily Writing Prompt

n. An unpleasant or frightening dream or experience; something difficult to deal with

-Nightmares are strange things, yet very insightful. They show us what we fear the most, either overtly or subconsciously. Most people would prefer not to have them as they typically put us in frightening situation we cannot control.

-Nobody likes to be afraid, although some andrenaline seekers might seek out scary things to chase the rush.

Fear: n.Β an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat

-there’s a quote from that Will Smith movie After Earth that goes:

“The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice.”

-I absolutely love that. We constantly hold ourselves back everyday because of 3 biggest fears in particular:

  1. Fear of failure
  2. Fear of rejection
  3. Fear of judgement

I think if we didn’t care about failure, we would try more things, learn faster, and achieve more.

Its funny how kids are so resilient to the word “no,” and will keep doing something. But by the time we become adults, we’ve become conditioned to avoid rejection and thus never take risks and achieve more than we think we’re capable of.

If we didn’t care about what others thought, I think we’d be much happier. Fear of being judge makes people so eager to please people they don’t like, and for what? Nothing.

So what’s the cure to fear?

Action.

Action cures fear because once we start doing the thing we fear, the fear lessons. There may or may not have been danger, but the illusion of fear slips away the more action we take.

So go out and face your fear with action.