My advice to undergraduates

Advice from someone a few years ahead.

A few weeks ago, I was asked to do a video giving advice to current undergraduates for the housing community I worked at during college.

I felt like this was pretty much the same advice I give to all undergrads I’ve met over the past 6 years since graduating myself.

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Why you shouldn’t finish all of your food

Most of what holds us back from achieving out goals are our mental scrips we got as kids.

I was inspired to record a video and discuss my thoughts this past Friday when we had free food at work.

In this video I talk about how the mental scripts that we got when we were younger may not serve us well as we get older and have different goals we want to achieve.

As usual, please let me know in the comments how you felt, if you agree, disagree, or just give me a like to let me know you enjoyed it!

Why I Love Mondays

Why Mondays aren’t the worst day of the week, at least to me.

Most people love Fridays & Saturdays but typically hate Mondays or Tuesdays.

My reasons why I love the beginning of the week and why reframing your thoughts this way can be beneficial.

I’m curious: What is your favorite day of the week and why?

As usual, leave me a comment below! I love reading and responding to you all.

If you have any topics you want me to discuss or cover, let me know!

To Improve Your Life, Improve Your Friends

One of the most effective ways to improve the results you’re getting. Surround yourself with those who elevate you.

 

“You are the average of your 5 closest friends”

This “Thought of the Day” centers around the idea of how the easiest way to predict our future is to look at who we choose to surround ourselves with.

Constantly find groups that will push you to become your better self.

Take on leadership positions to force yourself to take on new challenges.

Choose growth over comfort.

Special thanks to the Campuswide Honors Program (CHP) at UCI for elevating my mindset and being a part of my personal journey to where I am today 🙏🏼

The most expensive thing you can own

One of my greatest fears and why I keep learning.

“If you’re green, you’re growing. If you’re ripe, you’re rotting.” – Tony Robbins

Key Topics:

  • One of my greatest fears 😱
  • Why I enjoy reading so much 📚
  • Why knowledge is like a spider’s web
  • Older people compared to younger people 👶🏻👴🏼
  • The most expensive/costly thing you can own 💸

Continue reading “The most expensive thing you can own”

When People Complain About Walking Far

How perspective can change your reality.

The other day I was talking to a friend who works at both as a nurse, and at milk tea shop part-time.

It made me realize that perspective is a powerful thing.

A bit of perspective can dramatically change our experience. Add up those experiences and over time we have a happier life.

What do you think? How has gratitude played a part in your life?

Leave a comment and let me know, I read and respond to every comment 🙂

How do we find our purpose?

The other day, I was in a discussion group talking about willpower and how someone would develop or increase it.

One of the guys in our group said:

“All you have to do is just find your purpose and do it. Then you’ll get more willpower.”

Me: “But how do you just ‘find your pupose?'”

I didn’t like that answer because it sounded easier said than done. I felt like saying that wouldn’t help anyone who wanted to find their purpose but didn’t know how.

Key idea: You find your purpose by trying different things and finding the intersection of what you’re good at and what you enjoy doing

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree? 

People Who Get Offended Easily

“Those who get offended easily should be offended more often”

Counter-cultural idea: Nobody can offend you, it’s your choice to be offended. When we get offended easily, it’s a sign that we’re either taking something personally or taking things too seriously.

I have to remind myself that when someone says something “offensive” to me or about me, it reveals more about them and their faults rather than myself.

A perfect example: check out the comments section on my original Facebook post. Someone who saw my video got offended by what I was saying and took it down a different rabbit hole.

He interpreted it as being complacent when there is an injustice happening (such as bigotry, racism, etc). This was definitely NOT the spirit or intention of the video.

In my observation, he was noticeably annoyed by the idea and was probably looking to start a fight and demonstrate his intellectual prowess and moral high ground. He also tagged his friend for backup, which seemed to be intended to try and “win” this argument.

While it would have been easy for me to take it personally and attack back, I rewatched my video and took my own advice. I understood where he was coming from, and even though he diverged from the spirit of the idea, I knew this wasn’t a battle I needed to try and “win”.

Instead, I chose to end the discussion with acceptanceempathy, and gratitude for him and his beliefs.

To be completely honest, when I first started reading the thread and the attacks, my heart rate increased as an involuntary “fight or flight” reaction took place in my mind/body. However, I took a second to listen, understand, and calmly formulate my best response.

And in retrospect, I thought it was ironic and hilarious that someone got offended by my video about not getting offended and how you control your own emotional response to things.

We should learn from those who can laugh at themselves easily and not take things personally. These people are almost always much happier.

Even for me, this is a work in progress. And this was such a beautifully-timed challenge for me to face and apply my own advice.

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree?

Originally posted on 7/26/18 on Facebook here.