To Improve Your Life, Improve Your Friends

One of the most effective ways to improve the results you’re getting. Surround yourself with those who elevate you.

 

“You are the average of your 5 closest friends”

This “Thought of the Day” centers around the idea of how the easiest way to predict our future is to look at who we choose to surround ourselves with.

Constantly find groups that will push you to become your better self.

Take on leadership positions to force yourself to take on new challenges.

Choose growth over comfort.

Special thanks to the Campuswide Honors Program (CHP) at UCI for elevating my mindset and being a part of my personal journey to where I am today 🙏🏼

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The most expensive thing you can own

One of my greatest fears and why I keep learning.

“If you’re green, you’re growing. If you’re ripe, you’re rotting.” – Tony Robbins

Key Topics:

  • One of my greatest fears 😱
  • Why I enjoy reading so much 📚
  • Why knowledge is like a spider’s web
  • Older people compared to younger people 👶🏻👴🏼
  • The most expensive/costly thing you can own 💸

Continue reading “The most expensive thing you can own”

When People Complain About Walking Far

How perspective can change your reality.

The other day I was talking to a friend who works at both as a nurse, and at milk tea shop part-time.

It made me realize that perspective is a powerful thing.

A bit of perspective can dramatically change our experience. Add up those experiences and over time we have a happier life.

What do you think? How has gratitude played a part in your life?

Leave a comment and let me know, I read and respond to every comment 🙂

How do we find our purpose?

The other day, I was in a discussion group talking about willpower and how someone would develop or increase it.

One of the guys in our group said:

“All you have to do is just find your purpose and do it. Then you’ll get more willpower.”

Me: “But how do you just ‘find your pupose?'”

I didn’t like that answer because it sounded easier said than done. I felt like saying that wouldn’t help anyone who wanted to find their purpose but didn’t know how.

Key idea: You find your purpose by trying different things and finding the intersection of what you’re good at and what you enjoy doing

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree? 

People Who Get Offended Easily

“Those who get offended easily should be offended more often”

Counter-cultural idea: Nobody can offend you, it’s your choice to be offended. When we get offended easily, it’s a sign that we’re either taking something personally or taking things too seriously.

I have to remind myself that when someone says something “offensive” to me or about me, it reveals more about them and their faults rather than myself.

A perfect example: check out the comments section on my original Facebook post. Someone who saw my video got offended by what I was saying and took it down a different rabbit hole.

He interpreted it as being complacent when there is an injustice happening (such as bigotry, racism, etc). This was definitely NOT the spirit or intention of the video.

In my observation, he was noticeably annoyed by the idea and was probably looking to start a fight and demonstrate his intellectual prowess and moral high ground. He also tagged his friend for backup, which seemed to be intended to try and “win” this argument.

While it would have been easy for me to take it personally and attack back, I rewatched my video and took my own advice. I understood where he was coming from, and even though he diverged from the spirit of the idea, I knew this wasn’t a battle I needed to try and “win”.

Instead, I chose to end the discussion with acceptanceempathy, and gratitude for him and his beliefs.

To be completely honest, when I first started reading the thread and the attacks, my heart rate increased as an involuntary “fight or flight” reaction took place in my mind/body. However, I took a second to listen, understand, and calmly formulate my best response.

And in retrospect, I thought it was ironic and hilarious that someone got offended by my video about not getting offended and how you control your own emotional response to things.

We should learn from those who can laugh at themselves easily and not take things personally. These people are almost always much happier.

Even for me, this is a work in progress. And this was such a beautifully-timed challenge for me to face and apply my own advice.

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree?

Originally posted on 7/26/18 on Facebook here.

Is “Love” a Feeling or Action?

My thoughts on how to define “love”.

Morning thoughts during my commute to work 🚙

I had this thought while reflecting on a recent book I read The Gifts of Imperfection and wanted to capture my ideas.

Main idea: If we wait for a feeling to act, we’ll never do it. But if we act first, we’ll produce the feeling. This applies not only to going to the gym and working out but also to love, in my opinion.

Thoughts? How do you define love? Agree or disagree?

Originally posted 7/24/18 on Facebook here.

When people say “I don’t have time”

What “having no time” really means.

I was listening to a podcast from the GaryVee Audio Experience featuring Tony Robbins and he said something that really got me thinking.

“If you don’t have 10 minutes, you don’t have a life” -Tony Robbins

I had so many thoughts running through my head that I decided to just shoot a video while still in my car instead of writing out a blog post. Gary Vaynerchuk always says to document and speak your truth. It doesn’t have to be pretty, but what’s important is that you do it. So I did it.

Idea: If we really don’t have 10 minutes to stop and relax, or 10 minutes to connect with someone like, then what kind of life are we truly living? What are the values we’re cultivating in our own lives?

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree? I love healthy discussions 😊

 

 

Originally posted on July 22nd, 2018 on Facebook.

Interview with an 11-year old

Interview with my little brother, Jacob 😁

I’ve wanted to do this since he was 8, but finally got around to doing it this past weekend.

Here we cover a range of topics, just messing around mostly, asking the hard questions to get the insight of a wise and brilliant man of his age:

  • What would you do if you won a million dollars?
  • If you could choose a superpower?
  • Meditation
  • Fitness
  • His interesting morning routine
  • Nutrition
  • Soul Cycling
  • School: valuable or scam?
  • Tips to succeed in elementary school
  • Girls, beauty, and his type
  • Donald Trump or Hilary Clinton?
  • Walls, Mexicans, and email
  • Too much video games good or bad
  • Renewable energy and the environment
  • Favorite books, and video games
  • Race and ethnicity
  • The purpose of life, living, and being American
  • Role reversal: what I would do with $1 million
  • 2 of the hardest riddles I’ve ever heard

We had so much fun with this, as you could probably tell 😂