How to be “cool” as an adult

What I learned about being cool.

When I was younger, I thought people could only be “cool” or “smart”.

But then I wanted to bridge that gap and be both at the same time.

Now, I realize that cool isn’t about not caring or about being smart. It’s about being self-confident in who you are, knowing yourself, and being unapologetically you.

Do you agree! Let me know in the comments! I respond to all of them ๐Ÿ™‚

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Why 70% of lottery winners end up bankrupt

What to do if you win the lottery and not end up broke.

I cover a range of topics in this talk including:

  • Why lottery winners go broke
  • What to do if you win the lottery
  • My own thoughts on personal finance
  • Why money won’t make you happy

 

What are your thoughts on winning the lottery? Leave me a comment and let me know! I respond to every comment ๐Ÿ™‚

Why I don’t listen to everyone who gives advice

Be careful who you take advice from.

One of my biggest pet peeves and why I sometimes tend to tune people out when they try and tell me what to do.

Anybody else feel this way? Leave me a comment and let me know if you agree!

Would you rather be stuck in traffic or under a tree?

Why perspective goes a long way.

Would you rather be stuck in traffic caused by a fallen tree, or be the one who’s car had the tree fall on?

This talk was spurred obviously by my frustratingly delayed commute to work. Given my commute is only about 8 minutes, but it turned into 25 minutes, which really annoyed me.

Until I got closer to the reason why there was traffic, and then instantly I changed my attitude. I would rather be in traffic than have my car totaled by a fallen tree.

I think the key idea here is this: there’s always something worse that could have happened.

Also that #gratitude goes a long way in how you see your day going. Whether you’re having a good day or a bad day is soley dependent upon your attitude or mindset.

Why our greatest successes come from our biggest failures

Why our challenges and setbacks are necessary for success.

This idea came from me listening to Eminem’s new album Kamikaze on repeat. Needless to say, I’m lowkey obsessed with it.

Fanboying aside, I wanted to discuss the idea of how we can “turn setbacks into comebacks” as my pastor Rick Warren always says in his sermons.

Key idea: our greatest successes usually come from our greatest setbacks. If you study any successful person, there will usually be a huge setback that came before their breakthrough. This is the fuel for their fire.

Something that crushes weak people is simply motivation for the strong. And the difference between a weak person and a strong person is simply their mindset on how they see the challenge.

When you’re an introvert surrounded by extroverts

Why we shouldn’t force others to communicate like us.

This talk was spurred by a discussion I was in where one lady felt uncomfortable because someone an introverted person wouldn’t communicate like the other extroverts.

It’s my belief that when you feel uncomfortable with someone else’s personality, its 100% your responsibility/fault, not theirs.

We shouldn’t try and force people to adapt to our communication style.

Instead, we should accept people for who they are and be more understanding that not everyone is like us.

Just my 2 cents.

To Improve Your Life, Improve Your Friends

One of the most effective ways to improve the results you’re getting. Surround yourself with those who elevate you.

 

โ€œYou are the average of your 5 closest friendsโ€

This โ€œThought of the Dayโ€ centers around the idea of how the easiest way to predict our future is to look at who we choose to surround ourselves with.

Constantly find groups that will push you to become your better self.

Take on leadership positions to force yourself to take on new challenges.

Choose growth over comfort.

Special thanks to the Campuswide Honors Program (CHP) at UCI for elevating my mindset and being a part of my personal journey to where I am today ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

How do we find our purpose?

The other day, I was in a discussion group talking aboutย willpower and how someone would develop or increase it.

One of the guys in our group said:

“All you have to do is just find your purpose and do it. Then you’ll get more willpower.”

Me: “But how do you just ‘find your pupose?'”

I didn’t like that answer because it sounded easier said than done. I felt like saying that wouldn’t help anyone who wanted to find their purpose but didn’t know how.

Key idea: You find your purpose by trying different things and finding the intersection ofย what you’re good at andย what you enjoy doing.ย 

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree?ย