Is “Love” a Feeling or Action?

My thoughts on how to define “love”.

Morning thoughts during my commute to work 🚙

I had this thought while reflecting on a recent book I read The Gifts of Imperfection and wanted to capture my ideas.

Main idea: If we wait for a feeling to act, we’ll never do it. But if we act first, we’ll produce the feeling. This applies not only to going to the gym and working out but also to love, in my opinion.

Thoughts? How do you define love? Agree or disagree?

Originally posted 7/24/18 on Facebook here.

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When people say “I don’t have time”

What “having no time” really means.

I was listening to a podcast from the GaryVee Audio Experience featuring Tony Robbins and he said something that really got me thinking.

“If you don’t have 10 minutes, you don’t have a life” -Tony Robbins

I had so many thoughts running through my head that I decided to just shoot a video while still in my car instead of writing out a blog post. Gary Vaynerchuk always says to document and speak your truth. It doesn’t have to be pretty, but what’s important is that you do it. So I did it.

Idea: If we really don’t have 10 minutes to stop and relax, or 10 minutes to connect with someone like, then what kind of life are we truly living? What are the values we’re cultivating in our own lives?

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree? I love healthy discussions 😊

 

 

Originally posted on July 22nd, 2018 on Facebook.

“Wind” vs Rock

Wind – Daily writing prompt

If you had the choice, would you rather be the wind or the rock?

Reminds me of the animated show Avatar: The Last Airbender. There are 4 elements, water, earth, fire, and air.

The main character is a natural Airbender, meaning he can manipulate air. The opposite element of air is earth.

Wind is elusive while also powerful. A gust of wind can blow off someone’s hat, but a storm or hurricane can blow off the roof of a house. Even though airbenders are known to be more peaceful and elusive in combat, they have the full utilization of an unlimited element all around them and can use that in creative ways.

Earth is steady and strong. The fighting style of an earth bender is more grounded and heavy. They tend to have a more rooted and stubborn personality, but are consistent and reliable. Since there are environments where earth may not be available (underwater, on and island, or in the sky), they are limited to the amount of the element that nearby.

Both elements have their advantages and disadvantages. Personality wise, I feel like I resonate more as an earth type since I see myself as more consistent, reliable, and steady. In truth, we all have a little each personality type. I don’t think anyone is completely one or the other. There’s also fire and water types which I haven’t mentioned either.

I think the value of understanding what you own personality type is how you can use and develop your strengths and understanding your weaknesses.

One might opt for working on their weaknesses so they can be more well rounded. In my opinion, I think it’s more effective to hone what you’re good at and surround yourself with a team that compliments your skill sets.

Think of a team of fire, water, air, and earth benders, each one a master, versus a team of 4 others who can bend all the elements individual by are only average.

Back to my original question. Who would you choose: air or earth?

“Sanctuary”

Sanctuary – Daily writing prompt

This is the title of one of my favorite songs by Utada Hikaru for the Kingdom Hearts 2 video game soundtrack:

In you and I, there’s a new land
Angels in flight
I need more affection than you know (reversed)
My sanctuary, my sanctuary, yeah
Where fears and lies melt away
Music inside
I need more affection than you know (reversed)
What’s left of me
What’s left of me now?

Hikaru Utada – “Sanctuary”

One of my favorite songs to one of my favorite video game series. So nostalgic!

Looking back at the lyrics not sure what it all means, but the composition of the music and the quality of her vocals just create such a masterpiece that really transports me to another world.

Reallt, I feel like the words and lyrics make no sense. But the way she sings it, and the emotion out behind it, the seemingly random assembly of words sung creates this beautiful feeling within me. That paired with the compelling and emotionally charged story of Kingdom Hearts, it’s hard not to get emotional when I hear this song.

The song deals with multiple themes of love, trust, safety, hope, longing, memories and time. It’s all jumbled but they all feel there.

I highly recommend a listen to it at least a couple time so you’ll know what I mean. Even if it’s not really your thing (this isn’t the typical style of music I listen to either), it’s hard not to appreciate the magic this song has.

Always watching the “Clock”

Clock – Daily writing prompt

I remember a story I heard on Tony Robbin’s audio program Time of Your Life (highly recommended).

He recalls when he went to Fiji to buy some land as his own personal getaway. It’s a beautiful place so why not? He remembers being in the water relaxing, when he was startled because he had lost track of time. Being the busy man he is and having several other appointments throughout the day he didn’t want to be late for, he jumped out of the water and ran towards a nearby Fijian man.

He exclaimed, “Sir, do you know what time it is?”

The Fijian man looked at him strangely.

Tony repeated, “Time! Do you know what time it is?”

The man looked up at the sky, then back at Tony and said, “Daytime.”

Isn’t it strange how we’re so worried about being on schedule, on time, getting things done, being so used to our routine, that we cannot stop, slow down, and smell the metaphorical roses?

What is time really? Why is it that time can seem so short, while also feeling so long?

Why is it that when we’re having fun, time seems to just fly by. When we’re in the waiting room of a hospital, time seems to slow down almost to a halt.

Tony Robbins says time is just an emotion.

How we feel affects how time feels to us. So maybe instead of checking the clock all the time, we just enjoy the time we have right in this moment.

What “Drives” you?

Drive – Daily writing prompt

What drives you? Let’s break this down.

-What drives you a.k.a. your “why.” Your purpose is the fuel for accomplishing anything. Without a purpose, it’s almost impossible to achieve anything significant.

-Some people use their challenges as their excuse to not do something. Successful people use their challenges as their fuel that drives them. “The same things that discourage unsuccessful people actually fuel and motivate successful people.”

-In a study on successful people, researchers found that intelligence was not as strong of an indicator of success as drive, hard work, and resilience.

-Some say your “why” should make you cry. Others say it should be strong enough to get you up in the morning. Overall, what drives you should be strong enough and bigger than the obstacles that will undoubtedly come in your path.

-Some people are driven to help others. Some people are driven to be the best and continuously improve. Understanding what drives someone can really help you understand why they do the things they do, and how you can help them achieve their goal.

 

 

“Unpredictable”

Unpredictable – daily post writing prompt

Adj. – not able to be predicted or foreseen

My mind instantly goes to the concept of “the path less traveled.” Here are some thoughts:

-There is no traffic on the extra mile

-To stand out, zig when everyone else is zagging

  • this reminds me of a quote by Warren Buffet, I believe, “be greedy when others are fearful, and be fearful when others are greedy

-the path less traveled is likely to be scarier since few have gone that way, but you can really leave a mark a pioneer. Sure there are more risks, but also more excitement

  • they say there’s a thin line between fear and excitement
  • theres also a thin line between “creepy” and “romantic,” just depends on if you think like them back (sorry, random tangent)

-sometimes it can be more fulfilling to walk your own path than follow in someone else’s footsteps

-a mentor of mine once said, “people can’t follow in your footsteps of you don’t pick up your feet and move”

  • reminds me of parents who made excuses their whole lives and never accomplished anything, but then force their kids to do things they don’t want to do because the parents are trying to live through their kids. But how can your kids achieve when their parents, who should be their role models, have never picked up their feet and moved? Or else they’re destined to follow in your (lack of) footsteps.

-it takes more strength and endurance to walk the path less traveled. Those who don’t opt for the easy, more traveled path will find themselves stronger because they took the hard road.