Is “Love” a Feeling or Action?

My thoughts on how to define “love”.

Morning thoughts during my commute to work 🚙

I had this thought while reflecting on a recent book I read The Gifts of Imperfection and wanted to capture my ideas.

Main idea: If we wait for a feeling to act, we’ll never do it. But if we act first, we’ll produce the feeling. This applies not only to going to the gym and working out but also to love, in my opinion.

Thoughts? How do you define love? Agree or disagree?

Originally posted 7/24/18 on Facebook here.

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When people say “I don’t have time”

What “having no time” really means.

I was listening to a podcast from the GaryVee Audio Experience featuring Tony Robbins and he said something that really got me thinking.

“If you don’t have 10 minutes, you don’t have a life” -Tony Robbins

I had so many thoughts running through my head that I decided to just shoot a video while still in my car instead of writing out a blog post. Gary Vaynerchuk always says to document and speak your truth. It doesn’t have to be pretty, but what’s important is that you do it. So I did it.

Idea: If we really don’t have 10 minutes to stop and relax, or 10 minutes to connect with someone like, then what kind of life are we truly living? What are the values we’re cultivating in our own lives?

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree? I love healthy discussions 😊

 

 

Originally posted on July 22nd, 2018 on Facebook.

Book notes: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel book summary.

Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic & the Domestic by Esther Perel

Synopsis: “Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

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Book notes: The Truth by Neil Strauss

The Truth by Neil Strauss book summary.

The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships by Neil Strauss

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Synopsis: “Neil Strauss became famous to millions around the world as the author of The Game, a funny and slyly instructive account of how he transformed himself from a scrawny, insecure nerd into the ultraconfident, ultrasuccessful “pickup artist” known as Style. The book jump-started the international “seduction community” and made Strauss a household name – revered or notorious – among single men and women alike.

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Book notes: Give and Take by Adam Grant

Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success by Adam M. Grant, Ph.D. book summary.

Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success by Adam M. Grant, Ph.D.

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Synopsis: “For generations, we have focused on the individual drivers of success: passion, hard work, talent, and luck. But today, success is increasingly dependent on how we interact with others.

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Book notes: Tribe by Sebastian Junger

Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger book summary.

Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger

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Synopsis: “Tribal society has been exerting an almost gravitational pull on Westerners for hundreds of years, and the reason lies deep in our evolutionary past as a communal species.

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Book notes: The Game by Neil Strauss

The Game by Neil Strauss book summary.

The Game by Neil Strauss

Synopsis: “Hidden somewhere, in nearly every major city in the world, is an underground seduction lair. And in these lairs, men trade the most devastatingly effective techniques ever invented to charm women. This is not fiction. These men really exist. They live together in houses known as Projects. And Neil Strauss, the best-selling author, spent two years living among them, using the pseudonym Style to protect his real-life identity.

The result is one of the most explosive and controversial books of the year — guaranteed to change the lives of men and transform the way women understand the opposite sex forever.

The Game is the story of one man’s transformation from frog to prince to prisoner in the most unforgettable book of the year.” -Audible

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Book notes: The Like Switch by Jack Schafer

The Like Switch by Jack Schafer book summary

The Like Switch by Jack Schafer, Marvin Karlins


Synopsis: “From a former FBI Special Agent specializing in behavior analysis and recruiting spies comes a handbook filled with his proven strategies on how to instantly read people and influence how they perceive you, so you can easily turn on the like switch.

Dr. Schafer cracks the code on making great first impressions, building lasting relationships, and understanding others’ behavior to learn what they really think about you. With tips and techniques that hold the key to taking control of your communications, interactions, and relationships, The Like Switch shows you how to read others and get people to like you for a moment or a lifetime.” -Audible

Opening thoughts:

Another book I came across because it was in my recommended reads in Audible. It had a lot of good reviews and a compelling synopsis, so why not? I also wanted to read something less business-y and more on interpersonal skills. Lastly, I wanted to keep with this month’s theme of red-colored book covers so all of the books would match when I collage it for Instagram, lol.

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