Why I Spent Almost $120 on Acai Bowls Last Month

Why I don’t think this is going overboard.

For anyone who checks out my foodie Instagram account (@yolocruzfoodz) and story, or has talked with me in the past couple of months, you probably know that I’ve become mildly obsessed with acai bowls.

Mildly” being up for interpretation.

This point was underscored when I took a look at my July spending towards this recent obsession (I track all of my spending categories via my budgets feature on Mint).

While my fascination with acai bowls began in late May / early June, this was the first month I knew it was becoming an actual obsession.

July Acai Spending Breakdown:

Total: $117.95

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What Makes Us So Unhappy?

Thought for the day 

Key idea: The easiest way to make ourselves unhappy is to compare ourselves with other people. Therefore, to increase happiness, we have to stop this.

Easier said than done, given how social media encourages us to show our “best sides” and the “highlight reel” of our lives.

I reality, many times we’re just trying to impress people we don’t even like. And we can’t help but be envious of those around us who seem happy and successful.

But more often than not, those who seem to have perfect lives on the outside might be struggling with the same insecurities as us.

Some of my favorite books on this topic:

Thoughts? Do you agree? Disagree? What else makes us unhappy?

People Who Get Offended Easily

“Those who get offended easily should be offended more often”

Counter-cultural idea: Nobody can offend you, it’s your choice to be offended. When we get offended easily, it’s a sign that we’re either taking something personally or taking things too seriously.

I have to remind myself that when someone says something “offensive” to me or about me, it reveals more about them and their faults rather than myself.

A perfect example: check out the comments section on my original Facebook post. Someone who saw my video got offended by what I was saying and took it down a different rabbit hole.

He interpreted it as being complacent when there is an injustice happening (such as bigotry, racism, etc). This was definitely NOT the spirit or intention of the video.

In my observation, he was noticeably annoyed by the idea and was probably looking to start a fight and demonstrate his intellectual prowess and moral high ground. He also tagged his friend for backup, which seemed to be intended to try and “win” this argument.

While it would have been easy for me to take it personally and attack back, I rewatched my video and took my own advice. I understood where he was coming from, and even though he diverged from the spirit of the idea, I knew this wasn’t a battle I needed to try and “win”.

Instead, I chose to end the discussion with acceptanceempathy, and gratitude for him and his beliefs.

To be completely honest, when I first started reading the thread and the attacks, my heart rate increased as an involuntary “fight or flight” reaction took place in my mind/body. However, I took a second to listen, understand, and calmly formulate my best response.

And in retrospect, I thought it was ironic and hilarious that someone got offended by my video about not getting offended and how you control your own emotional response to things.

We should learn from those who can laugh at themselves easily and not take things personally. These people are almost always much happier.

Even for me, this is a work in progress. And this was such a beautifully-timed challenge for me to face and apply my own advice.

Let me know your thoughts! Do you agree? Disagree?

Originally posted on 7/26/18 on Facebook here.

Book notes: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie book summary.

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living: Time-Tested Methods for Conquering Worry by Dale Carnegie

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Synopsis: “Through Dale Carnegie’s seven-million-copy best seller (recently revised) millions of people have been helped to overcome the worry habit. Dale Carnegie offers a set of practical formulas you can put to work today, formulas that will last a lifetime! Discover how to:

  • Eliminate 50 percent of business worries immediately
  • Reduce financial worries
  • Turn criticism to your advantage
  • Avoid fatigue and keep looking young
  • Add one hour a day to your waking life
  • Find yourself and be yourself – remember, there is no one on earth like you!

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Book notes: Tribe

Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger book summary.

Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger

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Synopsis: “Tribal society has been exerting an almost gravitational pull on Westerners for hundreds of years, and the reason lies deep in our evolutionary past as a communal species.

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Book notes: Delivering Happiness by Tony Hsieh

Delivering Happiness by Tony Hsieh book summary.

Delivering Happiness: A Path to Profits, Passion, and Purpose by Tony Hsieh

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Synopsis: In this, his first audiobook, Tony Hsieh – the widely admired CEO of Zappos, the online shoe retailer – explains how he created a unique culture and commitment to service that aims to improve the lives of employees, customers, vendors, and backers. Using anecdotes and stories from his own life experiences, and from other companies, Hsieh provides concrete ways that companies can achieve unprecedented success. Even better, he shows how creating happiness and record results go hand-in-hand.

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Are wealth and happiness “Elusive”?

Elusive – Daily writing prompt

Are things like happiness and wealth elusive?

“Nothing good ever happens to me!”

or

“I’ll never be rich”

These are just some of the internal scripts that unhappy and broke people use to describe their lives. I believe that the key to changing our circumstances relies heavily on changing those internal scripts.

In one of my favorite books, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker talks about his “hokey” affirmations that helped him reprogram how he thought about wealth and money. Definitely recommend.

-They say the difference between a good day and a bad day depends on your attitude. The stimulus/event is the same, but your reaction to it is what makes the difference.

-Happiness works the same way. Your day isn’t good or bad. It just is. But happiness is definitely a choice that lies in between the event and how you choose to feel about it. Knowing this will give you the greatest power over your mind.

-They say a true master/warrior is one who can control his or her own mind and emotions.

-One of my favorite quotes on gratitude:

“What makes you think you deserve more when you don’t even appreciate what you have?”

-When in doubt, an attitude of gratitude will help you feel happier.

In terms of wealth, the same principles apply.

-As Tony Robbins says, you can’t become wealthy. You start wealthy and then work to become financially free.

Abundance mentality vs scarcity mentality is HUGE. This principle applies in everything we do and how we see things.

-People who are broke are largely so because they have scarcity mentality. They hoard, save, don’t give and help others, and are constantly in a mindset of lack and not having enough. The don’t share and are afraid of giving because they feel like they lose. They don’t take risks and they sacrifice quality of life for cheap and budget.

-People who are wealthy are largely so because of their abundance mentality. It requires a lot of optimism and vision to create something of huge value and become rich. They give constantly because they’re grateful and know there’s plenty to go around. They take chances because they see the upsides. They share thoughts and ideas because they know better ones come from open information and collaboration. They opt for quality over lower price.

-If you don’t start wealthy in your mind, you have no chance of becoming rich. You have to act and be what you want.

“You don’t get what you want, you get what you are.”

Start wealthy and happy, don’t become it. It’s not elusive unless you think it is.