Are wealth and happiness “Elusive”?

Elusive – Daily writing prompt

Are things like happiness and wealth elusive?

“Nothing good ever happens to me!”


“I’ll never be rich”

These are just some of the internal scripts that unhappy and broke people use to describe their lives. I believe that the key to changing our circumstances relies heavily on changing those internal scripts.

In one of my favorite books, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker talks about his “hokey” affirmations that helped him reprogram how he thought about wealth and money. Definitely recommend.

-They say the difference between a good day and a bad day depends on your attitude. The stimulus/event is the same, but your reaction to it is what makes the difference.

-Happiness works the same way. Your day isn’t good or bad. It just is. But happiness is definitely a choice that lies in between the event and how you choose to feel about it. Knowing this will give you the greatest power over your mind.

-They say a true master/warrior is one who can control his or her own mind and emotions.

-One of my favorite quotes on gratitude:

“What makes you think you deserve more when you don’t even appreciate what you have?”

-When in doubt, an attitude of gratitude will help you feel happier.

In terms of wealth, the same principles apply.

-As Tony Robbins says, you can’t become wealthy. You start wealthy and then work to become financially free.

Abundance mentality vs scarcity mentality is HUGE. This principle applies in everything we do and how we see things.

-People who are broke are largely so because they have scarcity mentality. They hoard, save, don’t give and help others, and are constantly in a mindset of lack and not having enough. The don’t share and are afraid of giving because they feel like they lose. They don’t take risks and they sacrifice quality of life for cheap and budget.

-People who are wealthy are largely so because of their abundance mentality. It requires a lot of optimism and vision to create something of huge value and become rich. They give constantly because they’re grateful and know there’s plenty to go around. They take chances because they see the upsides. They share thoughts and ideas because they know better ones come from open information and collaboration. They opt for quality over lower price.

-If you don’t start wealthy in your mind, you have no chance of becoming rich. You have to act and be what you want.

“You don’t get what you want, you get what you are.”

Start wealthy and happy, don’t become it. It’s not elusive unless you think it is.


Sanctuary – Daily writing prompt

This is the title of one of my favorite songs by Utada Hikaru for the Kingdom Hearts 2 video game soundtrack:

In you and I, there’s a new land
Angels in flight
I need more affection than you know (reversed)
My sanctuary, my sanctuary, yeah
Where fears and lies melt away
Music inside
I need more affection than you know (reversed)
What’s left of me
What’s left of me now?

Hikaru Utada – “Sanctuary”

One of my favorite songs to one of my favorite video game series. So nostalgic!

Looking back at the lyrics not sure what it all means, but the composition of the music and the quality of her vocals just create such a masterpiece that really transports me to another world.

Reallt, I feel like the words and lyrics make no sense. But the way she sings it, and the emotion out behind it, the seemingly random assembly of words sung creates this beautiful feeling within me. That paired with the compelling and emotionally charged story of Kingdom Hearts, it’s hard not to get emotional when I hear this song.

The song deals with multiple themes of love, trust, safety, hope, longing, memories and time. It’s all jumbled but they all feel there.

I highly recommend a listen to it at least a couple time so you’ll know what I mean. Even if it’s not really your thing (this isn’t the typical style of music I listen to either), it’s hard not to appreciate the magic this song has.

Always watching the “Clock”

Clock – Daily writing prompt

I remember a story I heard on Tony Robbin’s audio program Time of Your Life (highly recommended).

He recalls when he went to Fiji to buy some land as his own personal getaway. It’s a beautiful place so why not? He remembers being in the water relaxing, when he was startled because he had lost track of time. Being the busy man he is and having several other appointments throughout the day he didn’t want to be late for, he jumped out of the water and ran towards a nearby Fijian man.

He exclaimed, “Sir, do you know what time it is?”

The Fijian man looked at him strangely.

Tony repeated, “Time! Do you know what time it is?”

The man looked up at the sky, then back at Tony and said, “Daytime.”

Isn’t it strange how we’re so worried about being on schedule, on time, getting things done, being so used to our routine, that we cannot stop, slow down, and smell the metaphorical roses?

What is time really? Why is it that time can seem so short, while also feeling so long?

Why is it that when we’re having fun, time seems to just fly by. When we’re in the waiting room of a hospital, time seems to slow down almost to a halt.

Tony Robbins says time is just an emotion.

How we feel affects how time feels to us. So maybe instead of checking the clock all the time, we just enjoy the time we have right in this moment.

Pick your “Punishment”

Punishment – Daily writing prompt

There’s a famous quote that comes to mind immediately:

There are two types of pain you will go through in life, the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tonnes. – Jim Rohn

I think the greatest cause of people’s negative results in life is that they are too reactive to life instead of proactive.

Often times we hear about people coming to the end of their life and living with all these regrets. They spent too much time working and other things that didn’t matter, instead of spending time with their family, loved ones, traveling, making great memories, and enjoying the journey.

I think the difference occurs when people take the time to prioritize what they want out of life, plan out how to make it happen, and take ACTION. We all have 24 hours in a day, and yet some people make steady progress towards their goals while others do not.

Is there a difference in time? No. There’s simply a difference in priorities and a willingness to cut out unnecessary activities and fill in the time with the important ones.

Instead of filling your free time with watching Netflix or scrolling endlessly through social media, why not spend an hour learning that language you’ve always wanted. Spend 30 minutes meditating to get your head clear and gain some mental clarity. Call your parents up and tell them how amazing they are and make them laugh.

Putting aside a little bit of time everyday doing daily disciplines (reading 30 minutes a day, exercising for 1 hour, meditating for 10 minutes, etc), can have drastic compounded effects over the long term.

Conversely, being reactive in things like your health will also have compounding negative effects down the road. Drinking 1 can of soda for lunch everyday, for example, or wasting 2 hours a day watching the latest Netflix series. What are you really getting done?

I think the worst pain/punishment is getting to the end and regretting all the time wasted, when just a little bit of discipline could have dramatically created a higher quality and more fulfilling life.

Taking things “slowly”

Slowly – Daily writing prompt

Mostly a reminder to myself, but it’s always a good reminder to take things slowly.

We live in such a fast world, constantly inundated by advertisements, social media notifications, text messages, etc. It’s no wonder why we think our kids are becoming more ADD in today’s world.

Our minds never take a rest. Constantly juggling one task or thought with several others. Like an Internet browser with too many windows open, it’s hard to focus on anything when we’re constantly overwhelmed.

And it’s with this environment that we try to go faster and faster, try to get more stuff done, “multitask,” and find all these productivity hacks.

However, we all know that this isn’t healthy nor sustainable.

In one of my favorite books of all time The 4-Hour Workweek, Tim Ferriss showcases this amazing poem which I thought would be very appropriate for the my thoughts on this subject:

Slow Dance, by David L. Weatherford
Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round,
or listened to rain slapping the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight,
or gazed at the sun fading into the night?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
Do you run through each day on the fly,
when you ask “How are you?”, do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed,
with the next hundred chores running through your head?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
Ever told your child, we’ll do it tomorrow,
and in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, let a friendship die,
’cause you never had time to call and say hi?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere,
you miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
it’s like an unopened gift thrown away.
Life isn’t a race, so take it slower,
hear the music before your song is over.

Live “carefree”

Carefree – Daily writing prompt

Adj. free from anxiety or responsibility

So this past weekend, my family and I went to Miami and had a bunch of fun. We explored South Beach, ate a bunch of food, and went flyboarding!

I learned a funny thing while flyboarding with my sister and mom. Even though both my sister and I are “adults” (25 and 27), our mom still worries about us like we are 5 and 7.

You would think that as we get older and can prove to her we can survive on our own, she would worry less.

Nope. In fact, it almost seems like she worries more, haha.

If my sister was flyboarding and she would fall into the water from about 3 ft in the air, my mom would exclaim, “is your sister alright?”

“Yes mom, if she wasn’t, she would be screaming in pain or something.”

“Baby! (referring to my older sister) Are you alright?!”

“Yes mom, she’s alright…” (lol).

Although I’m not a parent yet, I imagine that you’ll always worry about your kids to some extent. But I thought that all that worrying isn’t healthy and probably causes a lot of unnecessary stress.

I have not read the book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, but Dale Carnegie is phenomenal and I’ve gotten many recommendations to read it, so it’s on my to-read list. (This is probably one of the few books I’ll recommend here that I haven’t read myself, as I’ll almost always recommend books I’ve finished.)

I hope I won’t worry too much when I have kids. I know I will to some extent, but feel like there’s a line where it can get a bit excessive. Sometimes you just gotta let them fly and grow on their own. That’s the best way to make sure they’ll be okay and you’ll live carefree 🙂

“Depth” vs Breadth

Depth – Daily writing prompt

It’s interesting how many people, in my generation at least, were given the same advice growing up:

“Get good grades, go to college, and get a good (high paying and/or prestigious) job.”

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Everyone starts off “Frail”

Frail -Daily writing prompt

Adj. easily damaged or broken; fragile or insubstantial

Everyone starts off frail, nobody starts off strong. When we see Olympic athletes, business tycoons, world-famous singers, and other masters in their crafts, we tend to compare ourselves and think we can never be as good.

This makes no sense.

What we see is the product of thousands upon thousands of hours of focused hard work. We see and admire their highlight reel, and then compare to our behind the scenes. What we don’t see is them doing the unspectacular every day in order to achieve the spectacular. Doing the ordinary to achieve the extraordinary.

Its funny how the best athletes, for example, are the hardest workers, putting in the most hours at the gym while their teammates are out partying and relaxing.

Two examples I can think of are Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant. I’ve read anectdotes of these two putting in a disproportional amount of work when compared to their teammates.

They aren’t hard workers because they’re the best, they’re the best because they’re hard workers.

The Rock always talks about being the hardest worker in the room. I believe that if someone is 10 times more talented than you, all you need to  do is work 10 times as hard to match his level.

Even if you start off “frail,” working hard, constantly improving, and working smart will help you develop the strength.