Why can’t I find a nice guy/girl? Why don’t my relationships last longer than 3 months? There are no more good people out there.
False.
The common denominator in all your failed relationships is YOU. Sure, you might go through some genuinely bad people, but if you’re always blaming someone else, you’re playing the victim and remove your own power.
Think, are you the type of person you would want to date?
I see cultivating a great relationship is like developing a successful career or building a business. Those who take responsibility and are proactive in creating the results they want usually get them.
Those who do nothing but complain and argue for their excuses will stay in the same place.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it and put effort into keeping it healthy.
Theres no difference between your grass and your relationship, or your life.
You’re not going to “find your soulmate” and then live happily ever after. You’re not magically going to find that knight in shining armor that will sweep you off your feet.
Why the heck would the knight in shining armor want to be with you? What are your merits?
It’s a fundamental principle of the universe that you attract what you are. Great people find other great people. Are you working to become that knight in shining armor so you can find your princess? Are you working to be an amazing wife for your future husband?
You cannot control the other person, you can only control who you are.
And this is more apparent once you’re in a relationship. Whether or not the relationship is great, it’s not on them. It’s on YOU. The sooner you adopt this, the sooner you will empower yourself to create the amazing relationship you really want.
Marlo Yonocruz 