Becoming someone you “Admire”

Admireย – Daily writing prompt

We all have someone we admire, whether it’s a parent, a teacher, professionals, successful business people, a friend, or even a sibling. There’s something about who they are and what they’ve accomplished that we really appreciate.

For some people, they strive to be someone that others can admire for their own achievements. It’s very rewarding to hear when someone says you’ve inspired them and your example changed their lives.

So how do you become someone that others admire? I think there are many ways:

-Do something that inspires you. Commit and do it fully. Despite what people may say and how they might discourage you, it’s more fulfilling do to it than to regret not having even tried.

-Do what you love, which will make it easier to do. As Gary Vaynercuk says, he hardly ever gets burned out because he’s constantly energized by following his passion.

-Love what you do. This stems from gratitude and seeing the bright side of things. Your optimism and appreciative mindset is what will make you happy in whatever you do.

-Overcome your challenges. Don’t wish things were easier, wish that you were better and then constantly work to improve yourself daily. When you reach the point where others give up, keep pushing until you succeed. Your story will inspire others that it CAN be done despite your challenges.

-Be consistent and persistent. When the rock and the stream meet, the stream wins every time. Case in point: the Grand Canyon.

-Focus. Most people have a deficit of attention. You’ll be surprised how far ahead of the pack you’ll be if you can F.O.C.U.S. (Follow One Course Until Successful).

Along your path to doing what inspires you, committing to something, following your passion, being happy and loving what you do,overcoming your personal obstacles, and focusing, you’ll no doubt inspire others along the way ๐Ÿ™‚

Any other ways to become someone you’d admire? Leave a comment below!

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“Wind” vs Rock

Windย – Daily writing prompt

If you had the choice, would you rather be the wind or the rock?

Reminds me of the animated show Avatar: The Last Airbender. There are 4 elements, water, earth, fire, and air.

The main character is a natural Airbender, meaning he can manipulate air. The opposite element of air is earth.

Wind is elusive while also powerful. A gust of wind can blow off someone’s hat, but a storm or hurricane can blow off the roof of a house. Even though airbenders are known to be more peaceful and elusive in combat, they have the full utilization of an unlimited element all around them and can use that in creative ways.

Earth is steady and strong. The fighting style of an earth bender is more grounded and heavy. They tend to have a more rooted and stubborn personality, but are consistent and reliable. Since there are environments where earth may not be available (underwater, on and island, or in the sky), they are limited to the amount of the element that nearby.

Both elements have their advantages and disadvantages. Personality wise, I feel like I resonate more as an earth type since I see myself as more consistent, reliable, and steady. In truth, we all have a little each personality type. I don’t think anyone is completely one or the other. There’s also fire and water types which I haven’t mentioned either.

I think the value of understanding what you own personality type is how you can use and develop your strengths and understanding your weaknesses.

One might opt for working on their weaknesses so they can be more well rounded. In my opinion, I think it’s more effective to hone what you’re good at and surround yourself with a team that compliments your skill sets.

Think of a team of fire, water, air, and earth benders, each one a master, versus a team of 4 others who can bend all the elements individual by are only average.

Back to my original question. Who would you choose: air or earth?

How to be “Unstoppable”

Unstoppableย – Daily writing prompt

Sometimes we go through life and feel like nothing is in our control. Why does it seem like everything we want to do is so hard?

At times, I wish I were unstoppable like Juggernaut from X-Men. Metaphorically, I could plow through anything in my path and be an incredible force.

Quick tangent: “What happens when an unstoppable force meets an immovable object?” Apparently this is called the irresistible force paradox. Read the wiki page if you wanna make your brain hurt, haha.

Back to the main subject: how do we make ourselves unstoppable so we can accomplish the things we want?

One answer I think of comes from another favorite book of mine Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable, by Tim Grover.

He discusses the concept of a “cleaner,” which is the highest caliber of performer. Michael Jordan, for example, was a cleaner.

A cleaner doesn’t study the competition, he/she works so hard that the competition studies THEM.

Here are some other key ideas about becoming unstoppable from the book:

-constantly striving to become better than who you were yesterday

-training physical strength as well as mental

-being comfortable with being outside your comfort zone

-knowing who you truly are and not making excuses

-we’re all born bad and taught to be good. Harnessing our “dark side” is what helps you get into the zone of complete focus

-working hard, making decisions, and obsessed with the results

-being feared over being liked

-trusting very few people, and those you do trust better not let you down

-never being complacent, always focusing on achieving the next goal.

Overall, it’s a phenomenal read, highly recommend it. I get pumped up from hearing about the concept of a cleaner.

Comment if you have any other tips to become unstoppable!

What to do in a “Crisis”

Crisisย – daily writing prompt

So imagine everything in your world is falling apart (or maybe for some of us, this is a sad reality ๐Ÿ˜ข).

Let’s say a crisis could be losing your job, an unexpected breakup, or a mega-earthquake like in the movie San Andreas with Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson (I loved that movie btw. Ratings weren’t amazing but who cares, the Rock is a #boss)

I asked my coworker for some nuggets of wisdom in these scenarios, and here’s what he would advise:

-Try not to handle everything at once, take it one step at a time.

-Handle the issues in a queue, you’ll stress out if you try to do it all at once.

-Think objectively, focus on the goal rather than the means. Easier said than done since these problems are subjective, but stepping back can help provide some clarity.

-Focus on the things that make you happy. Be around friends and reconnect with people.

-Redirect your energy and use your time constructively. Find new hobbies, stay active, keep your mind occupied. In a crisis, the worst place to be is alone with your thoughts.

Any other good pieces of advice for people dealing with a crisis? Let us know in the comments! ๐Ÿ™‚

Are wealth and happiness “Elusive”?

Elusiveย – Daily writing prompt

Are things like happiness and wealth elusive?

“Nothing good ever happens to me!”

or

“I’ll never be rich”

These are just some of the internal scripts that unhappy and broke people use to describe their lives. I believe that the key to changing our circumstances relies heavily on changing those internal scripts.

In one of my favorite books, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker talks about his “hokey” affirmations that helped him reprogram how he thought about wealth and money. Definitely recommend.

-They say the difference between a good day and a bad day depends on your attitude. The stimulus/event is the same, but your reaction to it is what makes the difference.

-Happiness works the same way. Your day isn’t good or bad. It just is. But happiness is definitely a choice that lies in between the event and how you choose to feel about it. Knowing this will give you the greatest power over your mind.

-They say a true master/warrior is one who can control his or her own mind and emotions.

-One of my favorite quotes on gratitude:

“What makes you think you deserve more when you don’t even appreciate what you have?”

-When in doubt, an attitude of gratitude will help you feel happier.

In terms of wealth, the same principles apply.

-As Tony Robbins says, you can’t become wealthy. You start wealthy and then work to become financially free.

Abundance mentality vs scarcity mentality is HUGE. This principle applies in everything we do and how we see things.

-People who are broke are largely so because they have scarcity mentality. They hoard, save, don’t give and help others, and are constantly in a mindset of lack and not having enough. The don’t share and are afraid of giving because they feel like they lose. They don’t take risks and they sacrifice quality of life for cheap and budget.

-People who are wealthy are largely so because of their abundance mentality. It requires a lot of optimism and vision to create something of huge value and become rich. They give constantly because they’re grateful and know there’s plenty to go around. They take chances because they see the upsides. They share thoughts and ideas because they know better ones come from open information and collaboration. They opt for quality over lower price.

-If you don’t start wealthy in your mind, you have no chance of becoming rich. You have to act and be what you want.

“You don’t get what you want, you get what you are.”

Start wealthy and happy, don’t become it. It’s not elusive unless you think it is.

“Sanctuary”

Sanctuaryย – Daily writing prompt

This is the title of one of my favorite songs by Utada Hikaru for the Kingdom Hearts 2 video game soundtrack:

In you and I, there’s a new land
Angels in flight
I need more affection than you know (reversed)
My sanctuary, my sanctuary, yeah
Where fears and lies melt away
Music inside
I need more affection than you know (reversed)
What’s left of me
What’s left of me now?

Hikaru Utada – “Sanctuary”

One of my favorite songs to one of my favorite video game series. So nostalgic!

Looking back at the lyrics not sure what it all means, but the composition of the music and the quality of her vocals just create such a masterpiece that really transports me to another world.

Reallt, I feel like the words and lyrics make no sense. But the way she sings it, and the emotion out behind it, the seemingly random assembly of words sung creates this beautiful feeling within me. That paired with the compelling and emotionally charged story of Kingdom Hearts, it’s hard not to get emotional when I hear this song.

The song deals with multiple themes of love, trust, safety, hope, longing, memories and time. It’s all jumbled but they all feel there.

I highly recommend a listen to it at least a couple time so you’ll know what I mean. Even if it’s not really your thing (this isn’t the typical style of music I listen to either), it’s hard not to appreciate the magic this song has.

Always watching the “Clock”

Clockย – Daily writing prompt

I remember a story I heard onย Tony Robbin’s audio program Time of Your Lifeย (highly recommended).

He recalls when he went to Fiji to buy some land as his own personal getaway. It’s a beautiful place so why not? He remembers being in the water relaxing, when he was startled because he had lost track of time. Being the busy man he is and having several other appointments throughout the day he didn’t want to be late for, he jumped out of the water and ran towards a nearby Fijian man.

He exclaimed, “Sir, do you know what time it is?”

The Fijian man looked at him strangely.

Tony repeated, “Time! Do you know what time it is?”

The man looked up at the sky, then back at Tony and said, “Daytime.”

Isn’t it strange how we’re so worried aboutย being on schedule, on time, getting things done, being so used to our routine, that we cannot stop, slow down, and smell the metaphorical roses?

What is time really? Why is it that time can seem so short, while also feeling so long?

Why is it that when we’re having fun, time seems to just fly by. When we’re in the waiting room of a hospital, time seems to slow down almost to a halt.

Tony Robbins says time is just anย emotion.

How we feel affects how time feels to us. So maybe instead of checking the clock all the time, we just enjoy the time we have right in this moment.

Pick your “Punishment”

Punishmentย – Daily writing prompt

There’s a famous quote that comes to mind immediately:

There are two types of pain you will go through in life, the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tonnes. – Jim Rohn

I think the greatest cause of people’s negative results in life is that they are tooย reactive to life instead ofย proactive.

Often times we hear about people coming to the end of their life and living with all these regrets. They spent too much time working and other things that didn’t matter, instead of spending time with their family, loved ones, traveling, making great memories, and enjoying the journey.

I think the difference occurs when people take the time to prioritize what they want out of life, plan out how to make it happen, and take ACTION. We all have 24 hours in a day, and yet some people make steady progress towards their goals while others do not.

Is there a difference in time? No. There’s simply a difference in priorities and a willingness to cut out unnecessary activities and fill in the time with the important ones.

Instead of filling your free time with watching Netflix or scrolling endlessly through social media, why not spend an hour learning that language you’ve always wanted. Spend 30 minutes meditating to get your head clear and gain some mental clarity. Call your parents up and tell them how amazing they are and make them laugh.

Putting aside a little bit of time everyday doing daily disciplines (reading 30 minutes a day, exercising for 1 hour, meditating for 10 minutes, etc), can have drastic compounded effects over the long term.

Conversely, being reactive in things like your health will also have compounding negative effects down the road. Drinking 1 can of soda for lunch everyday, for example, or wasting 2 hours a day watching the latest Netflix series. What are you really getting done?

I think the worst pain/punishment is getting to the end and regretting all the time wasted, when just a little bit of discipline could have dramatically created a higher quality and more fulfilling life.